When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

That's how it is at my house. Just before, the kids were laughing and dancing with Krystka, our au pair, and me, to "Dancing With the Stars," then I put them to bed with a cute Princess story, came back downstairs and danced a little with Krystka, who is Polish and looks at dancer Edyta Sliwinska as a hero. "She's from my home province," Krystka said. They kind of look alike. We did the cha-cha, and are both passable.

Then we had some cocoa, told jokes, and talked about Obama and "that mean" Hillary. Then my wife came home, her shoulders slumped forward, brow furrowed, black trenchcoat, black hair, black skirt, black cloud over her.

As usual, the laughter stopped. Krystka flicked the TV to CNN and stared at it glassy eyed, my son came out crying for a glass of water; I handled that and my wife complained why Ralph wasn't in bed. She slumped into the kitchen, made herself a huge sandwich, left all the food out, then disappeared into the bedroom. I guess I'll head there now. Ugh.

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

You're wife works? And you're the one who's attracted to the nanny, right?

I've been in your wife's shoes. As harsh as it sounds, I honestly did not like to work but had to help out with the finances of the house - to afford a nanny for the kids. I worked my fingers to the bone and came home tired almost every night but I had to if I wanted my kids to have a home they'd be safe in and to help my husband earn more for the family savings. I missed out on the years my kids were growing up only to get the same treatment you're giving your wife. Now here's the deal - I'll ask you - do you even appreciate the fact that your wife is working? She's working for everyone's sake and you gripe about the dark cloud she brings with her when she walks into the house. I wonder why she feels so bad because in my case - I was never appreciated for all the effort and energy I spent working my fingers to the bone for and caught the husband in bed with the nanny - you think I should have taken a gun and shot their brains out or do you think I should have taken my kids and left the sorry @$$hole with the nanny? What did I do? I fired the nanny, called up the agency and gave the police a report on her to make sure she never lands another job ever. I told the husband to leave (which he didn't) but he no longer gets a part of my earnings and he is a boarder in my house, a house that I bought with my money. Now tell me - you still think your wife is giving you BS?

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

you are enabling this. stop it!!!!!!

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

NO. My house brightens up. Even my cats enjoy having him home with us.

She needs to learn how to leave work at work. She probably doesnt even realize it is happening. Talk to her about it and see if you can help her enjoy being at home too.

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

well not anymore ;) since the divorce......

That being said, looking back now, I was always an "angry" person when he was home - because I was trying to "keep the peace" by keeping the kids in line so he didn't get upset......

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

Why are you dancing with the au-pair? That's a bit weird... It's great to be close to a nanny, but dancing with her....I don't know......... I used to be an au-pair, ( worked for 3 different families), had a great relationship with them all, but never danced with the fathers. Isn't your wife jealous? I would be...... as a matter of fact, I would not even tolerate it... Maybe that's why she is so gloomy..... Have you tried to talk to her about her feelings? Have you tried just to ask her how she feels? And just sit down and listen without judging? Apparently, your wife doesn't feel happy at home, and is unable to communicate her feelings for some reason.. If you want to improve your relationship, stop dancing with the au-pair, and try to talk to your wife..... and eventually dance with her.... I'm sure she would love it..... On the other hand, I might be totally wrong, and maybe she doesn't even want to be with you... Than I would just let her go...... Good luck to you......

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

Key to any relationship is communication. Sometimes people don't realize that they have that type of affect on a household until it's brought to their attention. Have you spoken to her about this? Maybe there's something going on at her job that makes her this way...maybe she's upset because you won't talk to her about how her day went. It's all about communication and breaking the cycle before it gets worse.

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR FAMILY LIFE IS WAY OUT OF ORDER, YOU TWO NEEDS TO SET DOWN, AND HAVE A LONG TALK ABOUT YOU TWO AND THE KIDS, IF YOU HAVE A PASTOR CALL AND TALK TO HIM. GET SOME HELP. YOU NEED GOD IN YOUR LIFE AND FAMILY ALSO. MALINDA

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

Little miss cha-cha has got you so hypnotized that no matter what your wife does you see her as a black cloud. When your wife walked in did you kiss her and ask how was your day(bet you didn't) why because you don't want little miss cha-cha to think you still have feelings for your wife. Your playing a sick game and your going to get burned if you don't don't watch yourself.

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

When my ex used to get home from work, that was exactly how I felt. Like a huge black cloud had come in with him. That is why he is now the ex.

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

We used to have a house full of darkness and tension,but we forced each other to put everything out in the open and stop living a lie,it damn near destroyed us but we persevered and began the long road to recovery,the truth cannot be hidden for to long,the burden of lying is to great for a marriage to carry.Stop procrastinating Reality and get this thing taken care of or soon It will be you carrying a black cloud also

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

you are too stupid...

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

i 've been there. I think u need too pile up some cash and the get a divorce. get the house kids and au pair and live happily ever after.

When your spouse comes home, does a cloud of darkness follow?

Hey!

I am really drunk right now. My brother just flew in from Mi to visit me and drug my @ss out to a bunch of bars and FORCED me Yes Forced me to drink several captian morgans and diet cokes and now I am answeringyour quesitions that I did not read. lol

fu k that krysta chick, you need a real woman who knows how to keep you happy, don't you think? mY fingers are numb