Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

Should I go to her hen night or even the wedding?

She tells my kids off with no reason-she has no kids of her own. She looks down her nose at my family( hubby her fiances brother, me and her future neice and nephew) tells me to have normal hair (have dredds) tells hubby not allowed to say anything crude in best man speech and also states that our son should not wear his earing (which is tiny and very

un-noticable) She shops at knight n Lee. I shop at Asda and proud of my family, my children say please and thank you and have been taught right from wrong.....

Your thoughts please.........

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

If you don't really want to go to the hen night you could get away with an excuse for that. The wedding, however, should be seen as a free meal and as many free drinks as you can get away with. Sister in law should be far too busy to bother you at the actual wedding. Missing the wedding would create too much trouble for the future. After the wedding you don't really have to bother with her too much. You can always use the kids as an excuse to leave early (unless they are too old for this, whereby one should fake illness).

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

I agree with her about your son's ear ring. Ear rings are for women.

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

I would suggest that you go to both things, and try to appear happy--for your brother. After the events, you'll be able to distance yourself from her if needed. When she has children, she should have a better understanding of kids.

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

If you want a relationship with your brother then you should go. Its a difficult situation but if you don`t go then it is going to cause conflict and your brother will take her side over yours.

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

Yeah. I dont like my sister in law. but look at it as you dont have to live with her. Your brother does. You should go to the wedding not for her but for your brother.

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

tell her to get a life about your sons earring - its his ear not hers and while you are at it tell her to take the stick out of her a.s.s.!

tell her when she starts paying the hairdresser she can decide how you wear your hair and if i were you i would go to the wedding and look 10 million bucks, what that *********. needs is someone to upstage the bride!

enjoy the wedding and give her hell!

oh and see if your man can fit at least 20 rude remarks about the wedding into his speech - like i would like to say how beautiful the bride looks, but im not a liar!

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

Definitely go to the wedding and be proud to attend with your well brought children. You are bound to see those there who are less than polite, albeit earringless, but instead of storing this information to use in a future argument just be proud of who you are. Its their day so do what it takes to make it special for them - even if it means agreeing to her silly demands. Don't make a big deal about it. Years ago I made quite snobby demands at my wedding to find that all sort of things went wrong that I couldn't control. I suppose you spend so long planning every detail that the sense to over control everything gets in the way. I know that now. You obviously have more life experience so be safe in the knowledge that when she has kids herself she will realise what a good job you are doing and will probably ask you for advice. You obviously have a good marriage - will hers last like yours?Compared to her, you have accomplished many things and have learnt to be more laid back. Once she has kids, she will have to be! You don't have to go to the hen night as once the drink flows you might say something that you might regret however you might see the real her and find her funny and normal. Enjoy the wedding and be proud of you and your family and the fact that you complied with her demands just to make her day , however silly you feel they are deep down. xxx

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

It wont be rude to skip the hen night but be at the wedding for your brothers sake. Politely tell her that if there is a problem with your children you would appreciate it if she would talk to you or your husband about it, rather than telling them off. She is being very childish with regards your hair or your sons earring, however it is her wedding and if she is upset by some adult humour then don't upset the apple cart. Maybe she will settle down once the wedding is over, hope so for every ones sake. Good luck

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

Wow she sounds like a major pain. You should just try not to have issues if you want to preserve the peace. I bet it's gonna be hard for you though.

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

She wants her future relations to join the upper upper strata of society overnight, clearly your son should not wear earrings, was never permitted in school as I recall, but she has a hugh amount to live up to if she is indicating that she is of an upper station than anyone else.

You may have significant problems if you can't get along now, family are supposed to reciprocate in helping one another out, marriage is for life because that's what we have to believe if we are just about to marry, at a crucial time you have a mini war ongoing, its not ladylike of her to express her emotions in this way

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

You are under no obligation to her.

Tell your bro you just are too different from her and it would be more peaceful if you kept your distance from her.

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

I have two sister-in-laws I'm not overly keen on. However, I think you just have to put on a brave face for the sake of the family as a whole ... after all, she is joining it and your brother did choose her as his wife to be

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

Is your brother aware of your feelings towards her, and does he know how she talks to you? If he does, surely that is saying something about him. If not, have a quiet word with him. Do not be confrontational or give him the impression he has to choose. However, make your feelings known, and more importantly, ask if he agrees with what she says about you and your family. In fact, are you and your brother close?

if you are, could she be a bit jealous? Would you want to offend him on this big occassion? Are you, in fact a little envious perhaps. I think you need to think these things through. If, she is just being a bit of a social climber and has illusions of grandeur, then she is the one who has issues, not you.

Cannot stand my future sister in law......?

I think you should go to her wedding wearing a white dress, drink all the free booze and do your usual break dancing by 10 o'clock! Show her what is like to be part of the family!!!